Shame can feel like a second skin. Shame is an intense emotion that can be deeply rooted in our sense of self-worth. You may not always notice the insidious thoughts you tell yourself, but nonetheless, these thoughts are shaping the way you view yourself and how you interact with others.

“Who you are supposed to be” and “who you are” might be two different things, but who you are is perfectly okay and what’s most important. Talk to a mental health professional about your feelings of shame. With their guidance, you can start the process to heal.

Because you don’t develop shame overnight, it may take a little time to change your thought patterns. Facing your shame head-on can be a scary process, but it’s worth it to relieve your underlying feelings and change the way it impacts your life. Therapy is not intended to change who you are, but how you view who you are. Just remember that you are already lovable, you are wanted, and with a little help from a mental health professional, you will be on the path to finally embrace who you are.